There, I said it. I enjoy a very mobile lifestyle. I count exploring the world and hiking in nature among my favorite hobbies. Heck, we moved across the country recently so we could be outside more. If my fitness tracker is to be believed I walk 14,000-18,000 steps a day, which is pretty impressive for a woman who works from home and gets palpitations at the thought of going to a gym. If you’re wondering, that’s roughly 7-9 miles each day. Oh, and I average 25 flights of stairs a day too.
Fun Fact: The average American walks about 5,900 steps a day
I try not to veer off course too often, but sometimes you just gotta. Like the time some kids called my son “retarded”. Or that time some random blogger went viral by telling women what they can’t wear once they hit 30.
Sometimes things just need to be said.
So anyhow! I walk several miles a day. Sure, I do it for exercise but mostly I do it because I enjoy it. (Imagine that, an overweight person who enjoys exercising!) I prefer to wear leggings on my walks because they provide maximum comfort with minimal chafing. (Believe it or not most women do not have thigh gaps and even for the thinnest of us chafing can be an issue) When I wear leggings I always wear a shirt or jacket that covers my stomach & butt, mind you that that’s not for your comfort, but for mine.
Why I Wear Leggings Even Though I’m Overweight
Today I had some errands to run and I decided to walk instead of drive. I packed up my three youngest kids (my sons are 9 & 11, my daughter is 2) and we started on our way. We weren’t even three blocks in when a man decided to hang out of his car window and yell at me.
“Leggings are for skinny chicks!” he screamed. I pretended not to hear him, always aware of how my reaction will affect my children in negative situations. His words went over the heads of my youngest two but they didn’t escape the ears of my 11 year old. “Mom, why did he yell that at you?” he asked. How do you answer that? How do you explain to your son, who is starting to cry because a man put down his mom, that some people are just assholes who think it’s their job to criticize others based on appearances?
I used this as a chance to explain tact, kindness, and body autonomy to my son. I told him that it’s not okay to offer unsolicited comment on someone’s appearance, even if he doesn’t like it (and also if he does).
I told my son that it’s not his job to police what other people are wearing, no matter what he thinks of their clothing choice.
I told my son that someone’s outward appearance is never, ever an excuse to abuse them physically, verbally, or emotionally.
I told him that by leaning out of his car window and yelling at me he verbally abused us, and that it’s not ok to treat people like that or be treated like that.
And you know what? Leggings ARE for skinny chicks. They’re also for fat chicks. And chicks who fall in the middle.
And to the guy driving the old red Honda, who incidentally was DRIVING WHILE I WAS EXERCISING, thank you for letting me know that I’m overweight. I don’t know what it is about us fatties but gosh, none of us own a mirror and I never would have figured out that I’m on the larger side all on my own. You know, I had all those talks with my doctor about my weight and getting more active, and not once did the fact that I am overweight come into the conversation. Gee whiz I’m so glad you were there to let me know!
I know you can’t see it now but I am rolling my eyes SO HARD right now.
To those of you who think you’re doing us fluffy folks a favor by letting us know that we should maybe lay off the donuts…honey, we know. We know exactly what we look like and exactly what you and most of society thinks of us. We also know that your thoughts don’t matter and that our weight is a conversation that belongs between us and our doctors. Fess up, you don’t care about our health, so quit pretending that that is what this is about.
My job in this life isn’t to make you comfortable. Did you hear that? It’s not my job to make you comfortable or sexually aroused or happy or decent or anything else. I am not alive for you, so stop acting like I should be.
Look, ladies and gents, WEAR WHAT FEELS GOOD TO YOU. Don’t worry about it bothering someone else because it’s not your problem if they don’t approve of you. Your leggings or blouse won’t make someone sin, and if they do that person is weak and was going to sin anyway. Your leggings or skirt aren’t an excuse for someone to hurt you. Your leggings aren’t an invitation for people to stare. Your leggings are LEGGINGS and nothing more.
P.S. This goes for my second favorite clothing item too, yoga pants.